Most of people like to compare the words ' proud and confidence' in relation of stages. It's very common to hear that there is only one line between proud and confidence. I have to admit that once I was very confused by those kind of definitions or explainations. I even tried to join the debates and figure out what was the real line across them.
For many years moved by I still not quite sure about the real line between them. However, I do figure out something else between Pride and Inferiority (self-abased). For many times I did claim that I am the person who do not like to bother others. It's very important to be a independent woman in this era. However, it's very ture for us to declaim something that may mark us high or build our self esteem in some better way we prefers.
These years I found out that Pride and Inferiority are usually co-related in some ways. I remember that there was many times I forgot my money and purse at home during the working days in University. I really do not know how to ask people for borrowing money. As a result, I might not have anything to eat during the luch or dinner time. However, there was once I forgot my money home and my car was just run out of petrol oil. I really need to ask someone for helps otherwise I could not go home. It's really funny moment for me. I really did not know how to do with it. As a christian, I prayed before I went out for asking.
But what I prayed was that if I could find out some bucks from my office. Ha ha, God did humanise me in searching out $10. So in the end, I went to my next door and asked Chiu-Chin for money. Well, that was not really so difficult to do it. I just did not know that how I could not ask for help. It seemed I was popular and easy going with my colleagues among my department. But I just could not speak out about my needs in time. Few days ago, similar situation happened to one of our friends, I did question her why she never asked for help? She gave me the answers which was " she dare not bother others". Finally I got the picture of myself and understand for it. It was our weak ness confidence induced our prides for asking help. It's really not a big deal to ask indeed. We may afraid being rejected by other, however, if we do not ask how can we know the results? Agree?